Letting go of Old Friendships (CBT)

Event

I had a chat with a friend that felt like a mental battle with my intrusive thoughts. My asexuality was questioned as well as my dependence on my parents. She insisted I live with someone (possible marriage) or become independent. My condition as a lupus patient with overprotective parents was disregarded. She did not consider if I have other relatives. I felt helpless. She kept asking about my plans for the future which pressured me. I asked for concrete help from her and steps on what am I supposed to do, but she told me to just drop the conversation. Finally, I posted our church's self reliance services and positive spiritual affirmations and scripture verses that show that God is in control of my future. After that she left the group chat and blocked me.  

"For GOD has NOT given us a SPIRIT OF FEAR; 

but of POWER, and of LOVE, and of a SOUND MIND."

- 2 Timothy 1:7

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. 

In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths.

- Proverbs 3:5-6

Note to self...

I am not alone. God is with me. 

He is leading me, guiding me and protecting me. 

He does not fail...

His promises are true. 

I will be okay.

God will never fail me or forsake me.

I'm not in this alone.

- Deuteronomy 31:6

I am loved by God. God will NEVER leave me OR abandon me. 

I can do all THINGS Through CHRIST Who STRENGTHENS ME.
I TRUST G♡d.

Automatic Thought

My friend insisted she was just concerned about me, maybe I was overeacting.

Select any distortions that apply.

Emotional Reasoning

Self Blaming

Mind Reading

Challenge the thought.

She walked away in the end. True concern will mean she will still stay and make everything work out in the end.

Her concern must be her own fears projected unto me. Her fear of being alone in the future.

She must have been scared of being responsible for me in the future. 

She must have been looking for validation of her solution in me and when i showed a different way, her pride was wounded.

Write an alternative thought.

If she can't handle me at my worst, she doesn't deserve me at my best.

She chose to leave. I honored her choice by closing the door and locking it.

In my new chapter of life as i am growing and healing, I need trustworthy, open and honest people in my inner circle. Someone who does not walk out, shut down or hide when its inconvenient or messy. I need someone ready to face me and my truth. She is not that person.

I am not the kid in the past anymore who is begging her to stay.

I have to let her go so she can be free of her worries about me. We must move onto our separate paths so we can grow and heal by ourselves.